Just do it. Or not.

"If she's amazing, she won't be easy.
If she's easy, she won't be amazing.
If she's worth it, you won't give up.
If you give up, you're not worthy!"

The above quote makes a lot of sense to me.

It is, thus, a little strange that it was the caption on a picture of a girl with her friends in a highly, yet typically, photo shopped picture where you can't even tell what she really looks like. There were a lot of "<3"'s and  a lot of "XOXOXO"'s too. Though I bet when she would have said it, she would have ended it with a "Muah" or a "ILY" or something else nauseating. 

I'm not judging though.

So, this quote. It makes me wonder. 

People have asked me what I think of the whole "girl asking out the guy" thing  a.k.a. "girl making the first move" thing  a.k.a. "oh my god she's SO desperate" thing. I've always been pretty liberal about it, saying it means nothing as to who makes the first move if it ends well (because all's well that end's well), and if it doesn't, well then, the girl and the guy are going to have to deal with injured hearts and probably won't have the time to care who started what. If it ends really really badly, like where they don't talk for a month sometime after it ends (I'm afraid i know what that feels like), then it can just be used as ammo to hate or be cruel to that person.

However, seeing as I'm pretty much the most fickle person I've ever met in my life, it's no surprise that I'm now questioning my stand.

In many situations, when a girl will ask me for advice as to whether she should go ahead and ask out the guy she likes, or wait for him to ask her out, I might actually say she should make the first move. This will NOT be for the following reasons:

• Because I want her to humiliate herself
• Because the guy she wants to ask out apparently likes me, and I want to use his answer to her proposal as a test of whether that rumour is true or not
• Because I'm dating him in secret and I want to know whether he's going to go behind my back and take advantage of the fact that we're keeping our relationship hidden and perhaps check if he's using that technique to date multiple women at the same time
• Because she's a bitch and I just want her to get red faced for once in her luck filled life
• Because I'm stupid

It might, however, be for the following reasons:

• Because I believe, in that particular situation, it won't make her look bad
• Because I know she's the kind of person to take rejection in her stride
• Because I'm overconfident, and rightly so, about a positive response
• Because I know the guy and he's told me that he's too shy to ask her out and wishes she'd do something
• Because I know the guy and he's told me that he's too shy to ask her out and wished she'd do something, and also told me that he would never ever use the fact that she asked him out against her, ever
• Because I know I'm in an environment where this sort of thing is cool and totally acceptable
• Because I know, whatever the outcome, the guy has enough respect for her wishes to keep his mouth shut if she wants him to 

• Because I know that he just hasn't noticed her, not because he chose not to, but because he hasn't been in a situation where he could have though she thinks he pointedly ignored her             

But at the end of the day, if some of us can get guys to make the first move, then why can't all of us?

And as for guys, making the first move is the more manly thing to do, so there shouldn't be a problem there. Plus, later in life, telling your kids, or other people that the girl made the first move may make the girl want to not tell the story at all and that's just not going to help anything.

I don't think it means a girl is arrogant if she waits for the guy to go first. She's just doing what she believes is right, or what she knows she deserves. If the guy doesn't think she deserves that then he won't do anything, and hopefully neither will she, and life will go on.

I don't know.

All this sounds a little odd.

I think it may even depend on what kind of an environment you're surrounded by, you know? Which school, even. Guys and people in general have different beliefs depending on which school you're from. People try and deny that "my school defines who I am", but I'm afraid it's true. To some extent or the other, the person one turns out to be is affected by the school which they attended. However, I'm speaking as someone who spent her whole life in one school, and, thus, had no other option but to fall in love with it....eventually.

I still don't know which side I support though. I still don't know the answer I'll give you the next time you ask me what to do.

I'm quite sure I've been in this fix too, at some point in my life.

Check this:

Abhinandan: "I don't see the problem in a simple 'Waddup'.
Me: But it isn't just a 'Waddup', it signifies so much more.
Abhinandan: That you're bored?
Me: Screw you and tell me what to do.                                                                                           
I also wonder how I would be able to justify my actions to my best friends, Sonia and Arpita. They're going to ask me why I did it, and when I tell them I made the decision without asking them, or worse, after asking someone other than them, they're probably not going to be too pleased.

 

But, they needn't worry, for whenever I consider asking other people it always just ends up with me asking them and basing my decision on what we decide in unison, rather than what anyone else thought.

God, I'm so fucking fickle.

Hm, what do you think?